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Saturday, May 17, 2025The Buddy Bench in Spring
Saturday, April 19, 2025
When I was six years old and walking to my new school where I didn't know anyone, I heard a voice from across the street: "Hi! My name is Gloria! Will you come to my birthday party tomorrow?" My new very outgoing little friend introduced me to all of her friends, and all the anxiety of starting at a new school vanished! We became fast friends for many years following.
When I was a junior in college, my sorority decreed that we ALL needed to attend a fraternity party that we were invited to as a group. Nervous and somewhat annoyed at being forced to attend, I walked into the party with my friend Susan. The most adorable boy greeted us, took my arm, and said, "Didn't I meet you before?" It was a corny beginning, but we will celebrate our fifty-third wedding anniversary this year!
Each time I began teaching at a new school during my teaching career, there was always a smiling face in the next classroom, or across the hall, ready to become a lifelong friend, and to teach me the ropes of a new, unique situation.
Entering a wedding shower for my friend's daughter, she told me to "sit anywhere". I looked around the room, and whispered (I thought) to her, "I don't know anyone here." Immediately, a sweet and adorable cousin of my friend (someone I had hadn't met yet) appeared at my side and said, "I'm Terri. Now you know me. Sit with us!" Terri is one of my favorite people to this day!
At funeral this week for a dear friend, my husband and I were sitting alone and really feeling the sadness. The man in front of us turned around and started making jokes with us. I said, "Do we know you?" He said, "You do now. I'm Jack, and this is my wife Pat. Now we're friends."
This week's funeral encounter made my mind travel back to all the other times in my life when I was sad or alone, and a stranger became a friend. As a teacher, I always tried, and sometimes struggled to make this magic happen for my students. I knew that, for kids, friendship doesn't always come just by getting them together at recess or in collaborative groups. That's where the Buddy Bench reports for duty.
The Buddy Bench
What is a Buddy Bench? This concept has been around since 2013, when a second grader came up with an idea for lonely kids at recess time. The Buddy Bench doesn't even have to be an actual bench, but it does have to be an agreed upon meeting place. When a child sits on a Buddy Bench, it sends a signal to others that he/she/they would like to interact with someone. This could mean just talking or joining in a game. It's a great way to promote inclusion and to build empathy. I'm all for anything we can do to build kids up from the inside out. The Buddy Bench is relationship and SEL magic!
The secret to success with your Buddy Bench is to discretely teach what it's all about and to model using it. When we installed one at my school, I discovered that the very kids who needed it most in order to find companions at recess were the kids who lacked skill in interpersonal communication. (Anyone surprised?) That's when I developed a set of cards that could be laminated and left at the Buddy Bench to serve as conversation prompts. You can make your own or find them for outdoor use here and in classroom use here, but the important thing is to practice using them. Select a topic and try a model discussion. The topics on my cards all center on finding some common ground on which a friendship may be built. What are your favorite kind of movies? Music? Ice cream? What do you like to do best at recess? What's your favorite joke? You get it!
The Permanent Buddy Bench
Your Buddy Bench will be a fixture on your playground. Our PTA even added a second one right outside the office for indoor recess. Kids will use it to signal that they would rather not spend recess alone, and other kids will join them. They will find something something to chat about, and may move on to a soccer match, a jump rope game, or a race around the track. They may even find a quiet place under a tree to read a book together. As a teacher (or recess supervisor), you need to kind of watch the bench out of the corner of your eye. If a kid has been sitting there for too long, either encourage a child (that you have pre-arranged a buddy position with) or go and sit there yourself. Start up a conversation. No one wants to put himself/herself out there as being all alone, and then stay that way.
My favorite nine year old told me today that the Buddy Bench at his school is just a place to throw your coat if you get too warm at recess. He went on to say that since everyone at his school is already such good friends with everyone else, the Buddy Bench isn't used anymore. My dad had an expression for that which, in translation, means, "It should always be so." I swear I heard his voice telling me that when I heard about this repurposed Buddy Bench! My wish for you is that yours becomes a coat holder as well!
In any case, your Buddy Bench should become a familiar sight and a familiar concept to your students. It's their signal to be good people and to include others whenever possible. How lovely to sit on the Buddy Bench on a perfect Spring day and chat with a new found friend! Sigh.
From an unknown source, here is a testimonial to the beauty of the Buddy Bench:
Wishing you peace, friendship, and a classroom full of good people!
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Sunday, March 16, 2025Full Moon ahead? Major school break coming up? Too much excitement for students in the class before yours, or on the bus ride to school? Yikes! That could mean that your day is set up for major headaches, much waiting for quiet and attention, and a constant struggle to get through the lesson plan.
But what if you could bring an atmosphere of calm and peace to your classroom each and every day, no matter what may be happening just outside your door? Welcome to the Zen Classroom! Here are some easy-peasy ways to bring back the calm and get on with the learning:
When the sign is displayed, students can engage in one of several types of breathing. Simple and slow in through the nose and out through the mouth, one of many yoga breaths than can be learned and at the ready for these moments, or whatever breath helps each child to slow down and get calm. Different kids will have their favorites, and one or two that will work best for them.
Just a minute or two spent breathing in this way will restore peace and calm to each student in your class. Because I love you, and because I really want you to try this, here's a free poster for you! Just click, download and print!
Try setting up a yoga poster or two at each of the stations (math, writing, etc.) in your class. Set up a routine with kids that before attempting each academic station, they will practice a pose and/or a breath. Kids and you will see a definite upswing in success, I promise! It's just a great way to clear your head and to save a space in your brain for the learning to sink in. Try it with those dreaded times tables or even a passage from Shakespeare! You just may be surprised!
The most wonderful benefit of starting some of these practices with your kids is that they are truly life practices. Kids will remember and even automatically start breathing or assuming certain positions in stressful or difficult situations or even when preparing for a test, first date, or job interview in the future. You will have given your students a gift for a lifetime by starting some of these habits now in your classroom.
Here's another great use for those yoga posters or yoga cards!
Set up a series of yoga mats, or bath/beach towels, or just areas marked off by tape around your room (or playground!). Place a yoga card/poster at each area. connect the course with yoga straps stretched out (or tape) or yoga blocks laid in a row (can also be stepping stones from the garden or paper stepping stones). I love to use paper stepping stones with messages written on them like, "Just Breathe!" or "Find Your Focus!" or "Be Calm!" or even "Chill!" Laminate them and tape to the floor or ground. Instruct students to follow the paths you have set up from station to station where they will spend from three to five minutes practicing the postures and/or breaths posted there.
If you make setting up the obstacle course a class job, it will be a very easy and short setup for you, and a yoga obstacle course can be done as frequently and easily as a brain break. Definitely try it outdoors in the Spring for a calm and organized recess with a purpose!
Try hole-punching and adding a "ring-it" to individual decks. Kids can cut out the cards, hole-punch, and assemble themselves in third grade and above. Don't make more work for yourself by creating all the decks yourself when kids can give some zen back to you by doing it themselves. (Of course, cutting and assembling does have its rewards. Try binging on Netflix while cutting!)
In my classroom, a very popular volunteer position was "CPA Parents". These wonderful (usually full-time working) parents would check their kids' backpacks each night for bags of materials from me to "Cut, Paste, Assemble" (CPA). All the work would usually be completed that evening and returned to school the next day. It's like having a team of fairy godmothers and godfathers just waiting for you to make a wish! Bibbidy-bobbidy-boo! It's an easy way for parents who must work, but want to volunteer in the classroom to take part.
I hope that some or all of these suggestions will help you to create the kind of space in your classroom that will make you feel peaceful and happy while traveling to work to each day, looking forward to teaching and learning as you have always hoped it would be!
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Monday, February 17, 2025
Huge Beatles fan here. Always have been. As I think about teaching in February, and February in general, the word most on my mind is LOVE. No surprise there. It's almost trite to say what word reminds you most of February? Love of course! This is the month of love - chocolates for your sweetie, cute and fresh valentines for your students, maybe a romantic dinner this year since February 14 falls on a weekend.
The word love always reminds me of my students as well as my precious hubby, daughters, sons-in-love, and grandkids. Students' sweet little faces from years long past, their grownup selves who have invited me back into their lives through the magic of Facebook, and the most recent ones who I run into regularly at the gym, the supermarket, the drugstore, and the hairdresser. LOVE! Love them all!
I really think love is a magical word and if you really feel it when you look at your students, its magical effects will be life-changing. Want to love your job again, and pull it out of the winter doldrums? Love your kids. Stand back, really look at them, and find something to love. There is something lovable in each one. Fake it till you make it if you really think there's nothing to love.
I was planning to continue rambling on here in another of my way too long blog posts when I realized that my boys John, Paul, George, and Ringo have already said it all. As a teacher, those lyrics ring so true for the classroom as well as for life.
"There's nothing you can do that can't be done
Nothing you can sing that can't be sung
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game
It's easy"
Thanks boys! My interpretation: love makes all things possible. A person who is loved feels really good about himself/herself and has confidence in all they try to do. A student who feels loved will "get with the culture" of your class and be higher-performing and better-behaved.
Idea #1: Start with a compliment. Greet each student before class with a quick compliment. "You look amazing today!" "Love your smile!" "That orange shirt is perfect for you!" "I love those shoes! Do they come in my size?"
Make complimenting each other part of your classroom culture. Try some compliment cards or just make complimenting each other at least a small part of each day. Make your kids feel loved and they will "learn how to play the game" of school the way you want them to play it.
Here's a great resource to get you started:
"There's nothing you can make that can't be made
No one you can save that can't be saved
Nothing you can do but you can learn to be you in time
It's easy"
Thanks again lads! It IS easy! Make something together! Add some hands on to your lessons! If you're already a hands on teacher, add some personal choice to it. It is never too late in the year to switch up your routine and surprise your kids with some fun-while-learning activities.
And, it truly is never too late in the year to save an unruly, disrespectful class, and turn it into the class of your dreams. You have had the power all along my dear! You are totally in charge of the culture that will be built in your classroom. No state or federal guidelines for that. You are in charge here!
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Never say "can't". If it seems like a good idea to you, try it! Have some fun together and build the idea that learning together is fun into your culture. It's easy.
"There's nothing you can know that isn't known
Nothing you can see that isn't shown
There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be
It's easy"
The answer for classroom harmony in February and beyond is right in front of you. Step back and take a look. Find something to love in your classroom community and build from there. You are exactly where you're meant to be! And your students are so lucky to have you!
Love yourself, love your students, and have the best February ever, teachers! Did I ever tell you that I love your smile? I do!

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Sunday, January 19, 2025We've all had that "favorite" teacher. The one we remember throughout our life, the one whose name conjures happy memories of days gone by. Some of us were fortunate to have had more than one. Some of us are also fortunate to have become "that" teacher to our own future students. I've written two previous posts here about two of my most important life mentors, Miss Jean Brooke, and my Aunt Harriet. A life event in my home has brought back memories of another teacher, who I know has also become a part of the teacher I was, and the human that I am today.
My husband is currently in the midst of a health scare, and of course we are hopeful for having a positive outcome. However, he has been engaged lately in getting his stuff in order. Several weeks ago, he came downstairs with a pile of old pictures. Among them was a pencil portrait of me as a seventeen year old. He was fascinated by this portrait, and wanted to hear its story (as, I'm sure, do you!). Get a cup of coffee or tea, or a fresh mason jar of Kachava, and take a seat.
In high school, I discovered a very special oasis amidst the chaos of finding my way as a freshman. I bought an "elevator pass" on the first day, thinking that the price was well worth the amount of my lunch money for the week, considering that my homeroom was on the third floor. (Our building had zero elevators, and I had zero lunches that week.) Just figuring out how to get to each class on my schedule, and how to deal with the ever increasing homework assignments were chaotic and difficult for me as well. The usual teenage angst of meeting new friends was there as well. I had signed up to take Ceramics as an elective class, not knowing what a life-changing choice that would turn out to be.
When I entered the Ceramics classroom for the first time, I was greeted by a man with a beautiful wide grin, and a soft and gentle voice. He never needed to raise his voice, as he was a master of "wait time" long before I arrived. He was quiet, and his "people" easily matched his volume level. He called us "people" or "class", never "boys and girls", despite that being the most common way that we were addressed in most classes.
I quickly learned that this was more a class in living life as an artist, rather than just a focus in Ceramics. Of course we learned to create slab pottery items, and to throw a pretty decent pot or bowl on the wheel, but we were led to discover art and its creation is so many additional ways. I developed a love for collage and stained glass mosaics. Three of my mosaic pieces can be found in our garage today! At the end of freshman year, and each succeeding year, I found a way to continue choosing Ceramics as an elective class. I took advanced tests to skip a year in French language, decided to forgo the study of shorthand and typing, and ended my participation in Home Economics. I became a master of persuasion in the Guidance Counselor's office, and managed to stay a student of Mr. K for a full four years.
Mr. K's Ceramics classes were mixed grade, comprised of students from all grade levels. This was likely due to the fact that students chose other art electives more frequently. I remember that my sister and several of my friends took Jewelry Design as an elective. Mr. K's class became a microcosm of our school and the surrounding communities. As a parting gift to seniors who took his class, our Mr. K created a pencil sketch portrait of each departing senior. (Remember when it was cool to be a senior? Sigh. IYKYK.) Here is mine:
During my four years in "Ceramics" with Mr K, here are a few of the things I learned. I carry each of these lessons in my heart and in my very soul today, Thank you, Mr. K!
Lessons from Mr K
If you haven’t tried it, how do you know you won’t be good at it?
Although his class was officially, ceramics, Mr K shared his vast artistic background with us, using ceramics as an entry point. His example, I believe, led me to share my whole authentic self with each of my students. I found Reading and Writing to be great opportunities for sharing. You may find this resource useful during reading/writing conferences to share your authentic self! Just click!
Imagine the possibilities
Mr. K taught us to start somewhere, and then to explore and dream! Each class began with a short demo, bringing in new materials and fresh techniques, along with an invitation to soar! He also highlighted some of the projects other students were working on. Having a multigrade class enabled him to use the work of other students, as well as his own, for mentorship.
You don’t know everything
My high school years were filled with turmoil on the world stage, with protests and political activism at home. The war was raging in Viet Nam, but the time period could be any time, including the present. In his quiet way, never revealing to us his own involvement in WWII, he listened, said something like "Hmmm." Or "Ya think?" "Tell me more." and then invited us to think things through before forming our opinions so quickly. He basically taught us not to be know-it-alls while preserving our dignity.
Be part of a community
Mr K taught us that our class was a community, our three or four distinct neighborhoods were actually one community, and that the world was a community as well. We treated each other with respect, critiqued each others projects honestly and fairly, but kindly, and we learned from each other as well as from our amazing teacher.
I guess I've reached a point in my own life where I am considering who I am, who I was, and what my own legacy will be. If any of the lessons I've learned from my own teacher mentors and life mentors are helpful to you, I will be grateful.
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